RELATIONSHIPS; WHAT'S THE BEST WAY 2 CONQUER JEALOUSY??

 

KEY THOUGHT;  Does it have something to do with your own self-esteem, or does the person you are in a relationship with provide you with good reasons to feel this way?

 

There are many reasons we feel jealous and though it is a normal human emotion to feel, it tends to get out of control if we fail to tame it.

In order to tame it and control it however, you will first have to learn where your jealousy is coming from.

There is always a cause for jealousy to arise and once you have those causes figured out, controlling it will become easier.

 

NOW....Toning down your jealousy and possibly getting rid of it for good will take time. It all depends on the situations and reasons.

 

OK......How can one manage jealousely & keep it under control... in a positive,smart manner or perhaps even tone down the overcharged jealous emotions??>>>lol!

 

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MS.HC, .....INSECURITY IS THE MAJOR CAUSE OF JEALOUSY.IT IS SO EASILY FOR US TO WISH FOR OTHER THINGS THAT OTHERS HAVE.WE WOMEN ARE MORE PRONE TO INSECURITIES.WE START BERATING OURSELVES FOR NOT HAVING THESE LUXURIES AND IT LEADS TO INSECURITIES IN RELATIONSHIPS.SO THE ONLY WAYS THAT ONE HAS TO OVERCOME THESE ARE:

TRY TO BE POSITIVE
STOP COMPARING
STOP WORRYING
TURN ENVY INTO ADMIRATION

ALL THESE CAN AFFECT ONES MENTAL HEALTH.IF WE CHANGE THE WAY WE THINK SURELY WE CAN ALSO CHANGE THE WAY WE FEEL N THE WAY WE ACT.
Ha!ha!ha!...JRBS 66 Quer!!

Wiser to hook-up jealous free lol!!

Jealousy is often the motivation behind psychological, verbal and physical abuse.
Normal jealousy is a response to a real threat to a relationship, but much jealousy is delusional.
Our partner can become irrationally jealous even when there is no real threat.
Innocent social interactions loom as evidence of betrayal, and the threatened partner soon creates a prison of distrust and anger within the relationship.


Thank U!
Hve a gud one JRBS 66 Quer...
Hi UKoroi,

Insightful perspective!!

Hmmm.... let's see the big picture here! Women plus women equals competition..ha!ha!ha!(friendly competition is better though!!)
...LOL!!Where does this innate sense of competition come from?

All women have the same biological make-up. Sure some may be fuller than others or better at certain things, but is that the excuse for making someone else feel so uncomfortable that they wish they were invisible sometimes?

I wonder @ times...why is it women seem to have such a major affect on each other?
I guess at an early age girls manifest an orientation on relationships that continues throughout life.
Women view the world through the lens of relationships, and solve problems by figuring out how both they and those around them will be affected.
Adolescent girls discover who they are through those they know.

I believe one's jealous feelings aren’t about somebody else. They are about the person.

I think...all the cattiness needs to stop. Women need to take the time to really ask themselves if they are feeling this way because there is something about themselves they are unhappy with.

In my opinion.....Women need to CELEBRATE how different we are rather than waste time on thinking about how to make ourselves look better for others because, in the end, the only one that looks bad is YOU.

THANKS UKoroi!
agree
BREAK UP...LESS DRAMA..
THANX KAPUTPUT,

ha!ha!ha!.. fini..to

Short & sweet, easy & out!! lol!!
WAYS 2 CONQUER JEALOUSY
1. Self assessment is the first important step towards healing yourself. Whether you're the husband or wife, ask yourself what makes you jealous over your spouse's action and if you really have a basis to get jealous. Remember that love, in order to be genuine, should never be selfish and jealous. If you truly love one another, then do things that will make your bond stronger and not something that will destroy it.

2. An open communication line is the next step to develop. This means being open about your feelings towards each other. Why not tell your partner that you don't feel good seeing him or her with a person of the opposite sex or that you fear losing him or her. Being honest about your emotions is an effective way of clarifying things that may only be misinterpreted by the other.

3. Reassure each other of your love and support is also essential. In any relationship, showing one's affection is one of the proven ways of boosting self confidence. If each of you is secure about the love you have for each other, then nobody will feel insecure.

4. If you continue to feel this emotion such that it affects your daily routine, it would be best to opt for marriage counseling. The role of a marriage counselor is to help you deal with your negative feelings in the most appropriate manner and recommend to you ways to improve your relationship with your spouse.
I totally agree with all the points raised above @ Dear KS......you go gal, you would surely make a good marriage counselor.......@ Kaputput that would be the last option...cannot solve the problem might as well give each other some breathing space...or what would you think Ms HC?????
A warm welcome... Rockinta,

Yes indeed...Good postins from Dear KS & Kaputput!

It’s important to be always aware....that jealousy is a RED FLAG!!.
ONE needs to be vigilant about whether it’s the benign variety that helps us test our value early in a relationship, or whether something more destructive is brewing.
If you find that you are unable to reassure your partner, and that an irrational fear of betrayal becomes a constant in your relationship, you are in over your head.
The damage was done long ago and cannot be undone by you.

MALO!!
Hi Dear KS,

This is worth sharin...French psychiatrist Marcianne Blevis, author of Jealousy: True Stories of Love’s Favorite Decoy says, “All human emotions exist to help us figure out who we are in the world, and jealousy is no exception. It is a resource we call on when we feel at risk, when our sense of self is put in jeopardy.
When we are jealous, we are in fact in the grip of an identity crisis.
From the rival emanates an aura of magical attributes that he or she possesses and we don’t.
Yet we are the ones who assign those attributes to the rival; what they really represent is something unrealized in ourselves.

Some claim that a man will dump a woman who makes him feel the pain of jealousy.

Some men are extremely jealous, so trying to inflame his jealousy will always backfire. If he is jealous, he is struggling with the thought that he thinks there is someone out there who can make his lady happier and treat her better than he can. This is his greatest fear: (in his mind)..sadly he is not man enough to make the woman he loves happy. A man will drop a woman rather than suffer this kind of torture.

Appreciate the sharing...GOD BLESS!!
Lets face it some people are just not meant to be together and some are meant for each other.
When you are in a relationship and theres no trust,understanding each other and love thats gotta be an alarm ringing "Get Out" before u get into the 'J' stage.
Bula ladynibua,

GOOD ADVICE!!

Jealousy can promote intimacy in relationships, especially in the early stages, before trust has a chance to develop, because it correlates with caring.
The paradox of jealousy is that we all want some of it...It’s a measure of commitment.
In small doses it’s an expression of caring.
Jealousy is like a way of testing whether it’s safe to invest more emotion.
It’s safe when a person cares enough to be uncomfortable.
If your partner doesn’t respond, then it’s not safe.

The surprise is how easy it is to trip the male jealousy switch.
A lot of times men aren’t even aware of the emotional manipulation.
If a woman perceives that the man is less committed than she is, she will often try to provoke jealousy in him so that he finds her more desirable...lol!!

Thanks for your input!
Regards.

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