Man or Horse.....?

Heres the situation....My ex married a lovely american girl on the 5th December 2009. My kids love her which made me very happy. Come to find out through a reliable source that ex still continues to see his fijian girlfriend (who is married with a daughter in Fiji) even after his marriage to this lovely american girl. Now, Fijian girlfriend is pregnant with his child. He won't take resposibility for his actions and feels that the lovely american girl (wife) ought to get over it and stop whinning about what he did. Now Fijian girlfriend feels that the baby will be a burden to her and that they ought to send the baby to exs family in Fiji. Why would you have a child if you feel that it would be a burden to you? Why not come clean with Husband in Fiji concerning your baby and send it to your family? Did this lovely american girl really deserve it ? or was she totally being used as a decoy so that sexual abuse allegations made against fijian girlfriend would be ignored? What kind of man would do this to a woman. Is he a man at all or some sort of MONSTER?

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Permalink Reply by Vivienne Jones on January 20, 2010 at 1:33pm: Isa Tima your story is so sad. Just ignore the past and move on. With that kind of man its better to chop their balls....lol

Permalink Reply by Bass Man on January 20, 2010 at 10:11pm: ouchhh

Permalink Reply by mereoni ramanumanu on January 20, 2010 at 1:39pm: bula vinaka tima, qo ga edua nai vakasala lailai yani i Welligton NZ, nai kena i wali duadua ga na tamada mai cake, e yaco talega vei au na leqa vaqori, ia e sega ni ka rawarawa, sa dua na ka na kena mosi, baleta ni 5 na luvequ tagane. ena veika dredre au lako curuma mai ena noqu bula, e vakavulici au kina na Kalou meu dau vosota, kenai karua meu vulica na dau vakararavi vua. E levu na tamata era tukuna qo, era tukuna ya...me vaka niu tamata walega, sega vei au na kaukauwa meu na vorata rawa kina na leqa au sotava tiko, ia naka ga au sa cakava, meu masu ga ka biuta kecega vua na noqu i colacola. me yacova tiko na siga nikua, au bula voli vata mai keiratou na luvequ tagane, sega tale niu qai vakananuma na veika sa oti, au sa toso duadua tu ga keiratou na noqu cauravou, eratou sa cauravou lelevu, eratou marau taka tiko na bula au sa digitaka, meu marama tina mamarau, edua na ka e vakavulici au kina niu sotava na leqa qo, to be strong independent women.

Permalink Reply by GOMEN on January 20, 2010 at 10:43pm: Plenty fish in the sea but have different taste...Besides man are not monsters and these scearios do happened everywhere in this universe whether man is the cause or vice-versa. The truth being proven statistically that the most economical state (US) is the highest with regards to divorce and remarried. Neway goes back to the 1st line which is the the lure mechanism of a successfull marriage, at the end of the day its the taste of the fish you pick that matters......... I YAVA JIKO MADA KO KEDA.......KOTESIIIIIIIIIIIII

Permalink Reply by GOMEN on January 21, 2010 at 3:18am: oi meu manukaaaaa. wawa o cei tukuna niu cala cathloc you not the judge. Ya na noqu nanuma se cava?

Permalink Reply by mereoni ramanumanu on January 21, 2010 at 2:59am: Gomen... sa yawa o kemuni, yes there can be plenty fish in the sea, what im trying to say here, how can tima or any women out there, including myself, handle or tackle the situation like that, all womens are different, some can be strong, some women cannot be strong. it just the matter of how we handle it. yes,fish can be taste differently, it just that how you cook it.......sa dri yani vei kemuni, sa da mai kusima tale na veitalanoataki ika sa caka qo...lol

Permalink Reply by GOMEN on January 22, 2010 at 8:28pm: io mereoni isaaaaaa. au kila o tima sa dau osooso tu ga va na nona job ka sa sega ni vasaqara vinaka tiko na ika. De dua sa boil tu ga me wai levu tu. Ke a tavuteke taka beka se va gravytaka ke a sega ni yaco na ka qo. Sa lai tovolea o tamadratou e dua tale nai saqasaqa ni ika ka sa taleitaka sara valevu hahahahahahaha.
Na best solution ga i ke vaqara tale e dua ni se tiko nai cegu ni vasaqa ka veiveisau taka nai saqasaqa ni ika. Sa KANA BACI NA IKAAAAAAA. Kotemeeeeeeeeee

Permalink Reply by NiteDrox on January 21, 2010 at 3:25pm: It begs me to ask this question dear Tima....why didn't you ask the court for the custodian of your children, if thats what really concerned about? I thought they normally give the mum the custodianship? Its unfair to redicule your ex like that......sometimes we never undestand that the more we give out about others are in reality the reflection of ourselves.

What he does with his life now, is his prerogative and you as an ex do not have a right to any opinion regarding him. Forummers can only comment on matters that is general in nature. But in this case, sorry its personal.

Seek advise from a lawyer if your intention is in fact in regards to the children.

Permalink Reply by timaima diloi on January 21, 2010 at 5:29pm: For your information I do have sole legal and physical custody of my children. Would you like to see the paper work or did he not inform you that ? I couldn't care less what he does with his life but I do care how it will affect my children and we have been in and out of court concerning th allegations made against fijian girlfriend. But I'm sure you know hat already. I feel that the children should have that relationship with their father irregardless of their parents...thus I allow them to continue to see their father. They can decide for themselves at an appropriate age wether they want to continue to see him or not. He needs to grow up and do whats best for the chidren rather then doing things for his benefit and pleasure.
Concerning rediculeing my ex....he brought this upon himself. He is smart to pin point others for their actions....and redicule them. What goes around comes around. Now people have something to redicule him with....LOVELY!!!

Permalink Reply by Kate on January 21, 2010 at 5:36pm: Tima lewa sa rauta......u just broadcasting urself hia. Keda kece tu noda leqa, u dnt have to let the world know. Forget him, move on & masu lewa me vukei iko na Kalou. Na yaloca kei na vuvu sa vakavuca ni sui.

Permalink Reply by Reapi Nayacakalou-Kubunavuravura on January 21, 2010 at 5:14pm: lewa...let him & the two hers sort out their lives and their problems and you get on with the business of looking after your children and yourself...that is most important. you can't be worrying about the infidelities of your ex or the outcome of his actions....you should be worried more about how your children will be brought up...just be thankful that you are out of the picture for good...

now i urge you to focus all your energies and strength on the upbringing of your children - let them not see the faults or weaknesses of their father through your eyes...let them grow as individuals who will make up their own minds of what they think of their father for at the end of the day - HE is still after all their father.

As KKL as said - take the higher road - laiva na nodra mate me ra buluta!!!!

Permalink Reply by Isasobolei on January 21, 2010 at 6:50pm: I CAN SENSE ALOT OF HATRED IN THIS THREAD.....FIRST IT WAS THE POSTING OF SOME LEGAL PAPERS ISSUED BY SOME COURT....AND NOW THIS.....COME ON GIRL...ITS TIME TO GET OVER IT AND MOVE ON....
AND ....DOES THE WHOLE WORLD HAVE TO KNOW HOW MUCH HATRED YOU HAVE FOR THE T-FULLA AND THE GIRL THAT SNATCHED HIM AWAY FROM YOU.....